The Depth of a Lives
In our live journey, more ages more we’ll find many experiences. It could be a nice one or even many hearts broken. More many people we met, more we knew variations of people characters. People who nice only to get something from us. People who likes us as long we agree with what they wants. People who only to have fun and don’t know us deeply. We experience love that only makes us sad and misserable. And many more.
Usually the negatives or bad experience commonly get more scratch deeply in our hearts, and hards to forgotten. Am I right?
Its very normal with getting old and getting know more and more unconvenient experience, in one times it makes us feeling dissappoint about people.
Our experience shaping the way we feel and acts. It a natural process learning of live. All people is through that. But what makes its differents is HOW does the acts and response. In a very same bad experience and situation, two man can response a very differents acts. Simple example : experience a rude word that makes hearts broken to pieces. One man can learn that he must not saying rude word to other coz its could be very sadness. Other man is learning that rude words is something to express feelings, where people get satisfied to explore all his angryness. So other situation, he will do that when he get upset or angry.
Two different reactions that learn from a very same experience. Both are same bring changes to people, right? Its a learning process of lives. Both reactions is basic deppend on our choice in this life. What life’s does we want to have, that’s makes what reaction do we have. If us think it bad, so don’t do it to other people.
In other side, we also have automatic response to protect ourself from all situation or things that uncovenience to us. This is a auto response and commonly don’t realize by ourself when its happen. This response is basicly to keep our life existancy. Its protect ourself. Its natural and should be something good for us.
But sometimes when our hearts is too often to get hurts, in one time, we CHOOSE to have no heart at all. Have you?
I’m not going to say ‘this is may’ or ‘this is don’t’. Its all our FREE choices in this life.
People in Circle
I just wanna to remember, that life is like a rollercoaster. Sometime you in top. And sometime you get down. If you stop when you’re in down, you will never feel in top. As a grown up people, I’m sure all of us know that difficult times is purpose to shape us become a better person.
And one more I want to say is.. Be wise choosing something for our own lifes.
Sometime when we choose to protect ourself, to avoid other hurts heart (this is good and reasonal reasons), we may makes ‘colds’ reactions, such us mean to others, being uncare, only think what benefit for us, cheat other, etc. Basicly, its your own choices. But don’t forget that life is spinning. If you do others like that, sometimes it very possible that you also get kick by the same action you made.
I just wanna all of us being happy, and always peacefully deep in hearts.
Life’s beautifull or not, is in your own hands!
suwito HP is discussing. 
suwito HP 4:29 am pada 4 Desember 2009 Permalink |
That’s an interesting way of life that u proposed. Surely, just like Budha, Lao Tzu, or even Jesus, agreed entirely with the same idealism.
But most times, we must admit that we can’t deny the magic word called “Process”. If we read any great history, we’ll understand that only a few can really achieve the highest level of Self Actualization, according to Abraham Maslow. Why is that so?
Unluckily, the demanding environment and the basic instinct of survival leads any creatures on earth to defend their lives with their own ways.
Human (like us) are blessed with a more superior ability to think and to judge. That’s why, from the beginning of the day, human has been thinking about life after death, thus, creating a more cultured way of life for their own group by the faith of the more Holy Being. Thus, any acceptable behaviors are decided by the group’s standard and if anyone is against the norm, he/ she will be punished in the name of the Holy Being.
A few leading enlightened saints of their days understood that this kind cruelty way was wrong. That’s why they proposed another way, that led to their destructions.
According to William James, any behaviors that are mentioned as deviant, are learned and caused by the environment itself, thus, fanaticism about race, religion, way of life etc, are basically a method to defend their ego and to make sure that they have done on the right path, according to the norm. Whereas, in the category of social deviant behavior, according to DSM IV, it’s of course a deviant one.
So, perhaps, it would be really complicated to make sure what kind of behavior that is the most perfect thing to be the example. But, surely I totally agree with u, that it’s all about choice and life is about choice.
As long as there is no regret and no complain, I think we’re one step closer to our own happiness. (Unlike the fools who have chosen their own ways, but then regretting, crying, begging, and bla bla bla). Most annoying behaviors, in my point of view.
What do u think? ^_^