What Women’s Looking For
What Are You Worth?
December 11, 2009
Self Worth
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: “What kind of man are you looking for?”
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, “Do you really want to know?”
Reluctantly, he said, “Yes.”
She began to expound:
“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man…. or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, “What can you bring to the table?”
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money. I need something more.”
“I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said:
“I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business.
I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When she finished her spill, she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, “You are asking a lot.”
She replied, “I’m worth a lot.”
— Author Unknown —
Submitted by George Wachira — California
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suwito HP 5:44 am pada 19 Desember 2009 Permalink |
Hmm.. Just read this article more intensively.
In my observation, that kind of woman mentioned above is still a little bit uncommon in Indonesia.
I have a lot of friends, who don’t think that way. Again, our culture is different with the Western style.
Simple-mindedness is most commonly required. Many of them I know are intelligent and have a good social status, but, still, most choose the simple minded man with the ability to impress them by appearance. Appear good, appear mature, appear active in religious activity, appear gentleman, appear perfect. Some of them are blessed with beauty that attracts many men. Still, they choose a looking macho man, that in the end, can easily hurt them.
Well, I know this, because, I’m often asked to give a consultation.
Hmm… I think, perhaps, before a woman tells a man what she really wants, she should understand first, what she really wants.
Nobody’s perfect, not even Vivian Chow (my most favorite artist) or Mariah Carey, or every body.
To ask a perfection is a mission impossible, but to never understand one’s own imperfectness is most disturbing.
That’s my opinion, I think.
^_^
Redaksi 1:08 pm pada 20 Desember 2009 Permalink |
You observing by experience, or fact… is very good.
My own experiences is very opposite with yours. I know many beautiful, smart and successfull single women. Even if they maybe not looking for excelent guy like article above, but i know that they also looking for a soulmate that have quiet similar qualities like their.
Personal and coomunication match is very basic and necessary. Mature personality, and mature job, of course needed in this economical situation.
But all of that, i think when women choosing for a smart and perfect men is not wrong also.
We know many couple are in problems this now… during many reasons. Despite making a hurry and wrong decision about a life time partner of life, so choosing before making choices is very wise thing to do. Know your partner before you making a wrong decision. Because marriage is a life commitment once forever. This is what i think why mature and smart women are doing right now. Specially women who can independently live nowdays.
But… i also agree 100% that NO ONE IS PERFECT !
So… think and choose wisely about your partner of live, know her/his goodness and weakness, and if you really love her/his, you will fully can accept her/his weakness also.
That what beautifull loves does : to love imperfect person perfectly ^^
Have happy lifes everybody…
suwito HP 4:11 am pada 22 Desember 2009 Permalink |
I can’t agree more. LANJUTKAN!! ^_^